Addicted to Relation-ship - October 17 - Jennifer Hoffman

The path of relationships is how we experience our healing journey because we heal ourselves through the mirror of our wounds, which is one way we connect to others. We have a wound to heal, we find someone with the same wound and with a 360 perspective of our wound in front of us, we can resolve and heal our issues. That's the way it is supposed to work but it usually doesn't. Instead, we think there is something wrong with the other person, we try to heal them and then go from one wounded relationship to the next, wondering why we can't find someone who is healed and whole or thinking that there is no love in the world for us.

This becomes a relationship addiction as we go from one relationship to another, thinking each one holds the answer to our questions and believing that we have to heal the world instead of healing ourselves. Relationships are an exercise in self healing and we can be complete with one relationship or twenty because each one will serve our healing purpose until we complete that aspect of our journey. What helps us go through this process more easily is to remember that life happens from the inside out-if it's going on around us, it came from within us. Each relation-ship is a mirror of our relationship with ourselves, a view into what we can transform to meet our own needs. The funny thing about that is once we no are no longer 'needy' our needs are always met.

How much easier our journey would be if we could ask two questions of every situation: 1. How does this serve my healing purpose, and 2. What do I need to change in my vibration, thinking, beliefs and energy to end this level of connection now? Ending a connection does not always mean writing that person out of your life, although it can. The fact is we always connect with someone through our lowest vibrations and our healing purpose, so the faster we resolve that the more quickly we can connect at another level once the healing is complete.

It's easy to go from one relationship to the next and to follow that addiction path because each one confirms our wounds to us. And that can't change until we do. In a way it's a circular argument-you go first, no you go, no you go, etc. Who is first to start the healing? The one who recognizes the need for it. Then the rest falls into place and we will then find someone who gives us what we need because we no longer need it. Everything we seek is already within us, waiting for us to connect to it. And as we switch our inner light back on, the dark corners of our healing path are brilliantly illuminated and we can complete our healing cycles and step into the peace, joy and love of our heaven on earth.

8 Years and Still Going Strong

In October 2003 I was visited by Archangel Uriel while giving a friend a reading. The story is on the website and I've shared it with you before. I didn't know who Uriel was, and wasn't interested in working with him mainly because I didn't think I was the right person for that task. But here I am, 8 years later, still writing and channeling and ready to expand into new avenues of sharing this information. It hasn't been easy and in fact, as many of you know, when we agree to do this work our lives can become a tangled mess. But it certainly has been interesting.

Some of you have asked me how I channel, what the messages sound and feel like, whether I see Uriel and why I was chosen. My experience of Uriel's energy is a combination of hearing, seeing, feeling and sensing and I was chosen because on a soul level, I agreed to do at this point in my life. And I have been highly intuitive since my early childhood so I don't know what it is to not be able to see, feel and know life and people from this perspective. Someone once said I was a very clear channel and highly connected, maybe that's why it was easy for Uriel to connect with me but while I hear that doesn't mean I always listen. That's something I had to learn too.

So much has changed since my first meeting with Uriel. I have to admit I was very nervous about those first newsletters and the first time I received a critical email about a message, I thought about quitting. Sometimes it was a challenge to get the early years' newsletters posted using my dialup connection and yet, each time I heard a testimonial, success story or how a message changed a life, I knew that everything was OK and I was on the right path. And here we are, at the end of the biggest energetic shift man has ever experience and we have a lot of work to do.

My question for you this week is, "How can I serve you?" You are the teachers whose messages will enlighten and comfort humanity and I want you to be successful. You will be receiving a survey this week, asking for your input on a variety of topics so I can know how to best serve you in your spiritual, emotional, relationship and business growth. You can't be an effective teacher when you can't pay your bills, so focusing on abundance and manifestation will be part of our curriculum in the coming months. With the survey results I will know what I need to do to fulfill my mission of service with you and how we can continue this journey into ascension and beyond together. Thank you for being part of my path these many years and I am honored to be part of yours.

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Uriel's Message -- The Dimensions of Will

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Your free will is the gift of Source so that you can manage the energy of the third dimension. In this area you can do anything you wish because you have unlimited power and control over the energy here. But you often use your will in ways that do not serve you and also do not recognize that your will exists as a multi-dimensional energy which includes 5 or more dimensions of being. Each dimensional aspect has a purpose and all must be used together in order to set in motion the powerful manifesting ability that is your birthright, as well as how you fulfill your purpose of creating the energy for ascension.

In the first dimension your will exists as the energy of light and dark, which you know as love or fear. The choice you make in this aspect allows you to move to the 2nd dimension, which is structure or form. In this dimension your will creates a reality whose form depends on which 1st dimensional energy you are in. The third dimension is the energy of emotions, which is where you judge light, dark and form from how you feel about what you have created. In order to move to the 4th dimension you need to learn the energies of forgiveness and detachment, which are lessons of the 3rd dimension.

In the 4th dimension are purpose and intention, which moves you out of the unconscious energies of emotion and into greater control over your creation, which requires the lessons of the 3rd dimension, detachment and forgiveness. In the 5th dimension you have vision and knowing, which requires faith and trust, and full connection to Source and your power as co-creator. When you arrive at the 5th dimension your will is directly connected to your highest aspects, your higher self and source and this is where you create heaven on earth.

By understanding the many dimensions of your will you can know how you create and what you are creating from. Fear is the lowest level of energetic vibration and the least rewarding and beneficial energy but the choice to be in the energies of love and the light is one of humanity's lessons. Releasing judgment, self blame and forgiveness are the bridge to the highest dimensions of being. Use your will to create the reality you most want for yourself and the world will benefit from the use of your will to serve your purpose, to expand the energies of love and to experience life as the highest expression of your light.

Reverse Psychology

While we try to be honest with our children, we sometimes have to get them to do what we want by making them think we don't want it. While it's outdated to get them to eat their vegetables by telling them that there are starving children in Africa, (my parents used that on me), we can guide them into making choices by appealing to the Indigos' need for freedom and to make their own choices. It's a form of reverse psychology which, if used with loving intention, promotes greater harmony and movement-you can actually get your children excited about their lives and best of all, you don't turn into the nagging person that makes you cringe but you're so frustrated with them you don't know what else to do.

When we talk about getting our children to 'do' things, the big M word comes up, for 'manipulation', then we think about how our parents manipulated us, used guilt and shame and other tactics to get us to make the choices they wanted us to make. But this is not about that because we know those tactics cause more harm than good. This has to do with setting boundaries and giving choices and letting children make their own decisions. When my son's multiple car accidents caused my auto insurance premiums to rise 200% a month, he had two choices, pay the extra insurance premiums or move out.

He chose to move out and it was a great choice for him because he lived with roommates who wouldn't pay his rent for him, he learned what 'messy' really meant and had to be responsible for himself. He grew up and became more appreciative of me (especially when I helped with his laundry). Best of all, I gave him a choice and then let him decide. I really didn't want him to move but I did want him to start taking responsibility for his life. With these choices he had ownership of the decision. Follow through is important so don't create choices you won't fulfill. And limit the options; Indigos get very overwhelmed when they have too many options to choose from.

Be clear and direct, stay out of the emotions and blame, that's when they close off and stop talking. Remember they 'feel' your words as well as 'hear' them, so watch your emotions and be willing to accept their decision. If they decide to move out, say OK and help them pack (that will surprise them!). We get so worried about our kids that we limit their options by trying to protect them, from life and from themselves. They may fall flat but so did we, and we learned from the experience. The worst thing you can do is criticize, complain and get frustrated because that will have no effect (you already know that). Decide what you want and are willing to do, present them with some options and let them choose. In time they will thank you for believing in them and letting them have control in their life, even if they made the choice you wanted them to make in the first place.